Self sabotage

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Like a child, we destroy ourselves knowingly or unknowingly, there isn’t much difference. Unlike a child, we cannot use naivety and ignorance as excuses to derail and ‘kill’ our minds. It is basic knowledge that death is inevitable but sometimes death of our hearts and minds get lost in the midst of this debate. We tend to forget who we really are, become susceptible to other people’s perception of our own lives and try to live within constraints set for themselves by other people. We have become the Da vinci of self sabotage, perfecting the art in all its aspects.Self sabotage behaviours include, but are not limited to procrastination, violating personal boundaries, low self esteem and negative self talk.

Forgetfulness is a distinct characteristic of us humans.So unlucky that we are not blessed with the memory ability of Sheldon Cooper. It feels like we enjoy forgetting. We are oblivious to the fact that despite the similarities we all have as humans, we are very different. That is why it never is easy to put oneself in someone else’s shoes. We face different challenges at different periods of our short lives. Self sabotage derives itself from our own comparison to other people’s journey. We are all different and the earlier we embrace that, the more opportunities we create for ourselves. Our capabilities are infinite but when we compare and try to recreate others’ journey as our own we limit ourselves.

Self sabotage has been an unrecognised problem that we do not even notice we are struggling with. We should give ourselves the leeway to be a bit selfish when it comes to our priorities. Our priorities should be the anchor to our lives. A lack of focus will drive us into self sabotage. For the best version of you, you must engage only in activities that will enrich you personally. Allow your body to have a rest, postpone that meeting if you are not ready for it, drink that extra glass of water, run that mile to keep fit, read that extra page, check on your mental health and above all, pray.

The best solution to self sabotage would be to prevent it completely, but in case it does happen it can be dealt with properly. Self sabotage can easily be dealt with by prioritizing yourself. The consequences of our actions will be borne by us and we should always consider that before making any rash decisions. We need to get control of our lives, root out all behaviours that contribute to our detriment and strengthen those that build us. Remember that you are the prize and if you do not care for yourself no one else will.

The best gift you can give to your future self is taking care of yourself in the present.

“Our biggest enemy is our own self-doubt. We really can achieve extraordinary things in our lives. But we sabotage our greatness because of our fear” Robin Sharma.

#Mondaymedication

36 thoughts on “Self sabotage”

    1. I’m the Prize !✍️
      The best gift I can give to my future self is taking care of Myself in the present ✍️

      Highly educative , 💯

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  7. This post came at right time.i needed to read this.perhaps its time we understand there is room for everyone in this universe.instead of trying to be like any other person try becoming better version of your oneself.Words aptly put.It really hit home!

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  9. Love yourself,care for yourself,enrich yourself.speak your greatest words and live from your greatest self within.you have the power to choose love and happiness and become your own true friend.

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  10. The only competition you have is yourself. Your today should be atleast better than your yesterday. Base everything on that.
    Never regret your past nor your present. But learn from it. Center all this on God. And nothing will go wrong.
    Really enlightened. thanks to elightener

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  12. It is great to be reminded about the “not to do” list. Makes someone grow from a lot shit. Liked this article, certi article ✔️

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  16. Absolutely enlightenin…..brilliant topic of thoughts……

    HOPE to see more.Especially ELecrol ideology in different countries.

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  18. Great information right here. We got to be positive and strive toward changing ‘the man/woman in the mirror” . It is a great start for us all.

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