Racism:Remedies

Prevention is always better than cure but this disease has been a recurring one.It attacks,raises awareness for a short period of time and then completely disappears until another event occurs.Either the whole world has been blind or we are all fools turning a blind eye to this disease.

Unlike some diseases like coronavirus and HIV that have no known cure,this one has various remedies.A fact that we are all seem to forget,especially the racists,is feeling that we are special than others.That takes us to the roots of this problem,even the slightest feeling that you deserve something more than another person with the same problem is how it all begins.You should never feel that you are better or deserve more privilege under normal conditions.

Another fact these racists fear to acknowledge is that apart from the difference in skin colour we are all the same.We all got a heart,a brain and come on we all got same coloured blood.What amount of overconfidence makes you feel superior to other human beings🤦‍♂️.That in itself shows just how less intelligent you are.

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This racism virus is all mental.It just grows in the head till it gets physical one day.To get rid of racism we must pluck out the racists and to do that successfully we need less words and more action.We need to unite against racism.

No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.’Nelson Mandela

#Racismisavirus #Racismmuststop

Racism:Somewhere in an abyss

The recent chain of events have had a peculiar effect like none other before.The most recent victim of racial killing has sparked reactions all over the world.George Floyd(R.I.P) was killed by an on-duty officer after his arrest.The officer has been stripped off his badge and taken into custody but that is not enough to prevent another episode of racial killing.

Hundreds of thousands have been rocking the streets since the killing.Some enganging in peaceful protests while others accompany the protests with some violence and looting.This recent events have brought unity between the blacks and whites in America and all over the world.Although this is not the first case of racial killing,it has raised many eyebrows and people have had enough of this.Racism must stop.

The background

George Floyd, 46, was stopped by police investigating the purchase of cigarettes with counterfeit money on 25 May in Minneapolis.

A video showed Floyd being arrested and a white police officer continuing to kneel on his neck for several minutes even after he pleaded that he could not breathe.

This story is just but one of the few known to the world.These events have been going on for like forever and must come to a halt.Join the world in this campaign against racism.

#Racismmuststop #weareallblackwhenthelightsgoout✌

Meanwhile,stay safe and sanitize✌

Love don’t cost a thing

Yeah we just young,dumb and broke but we still got love to give✌.

In my previous post,i talked about how love is overrated and given pretty much high expectations.However,that should not deter anyone from enjoying the fruits of true love which does exist some times.Although very rare,you can find people who truly love each other without conditions and just bare minimum expectations.

The experience is just amazing.Imagine(just imagine) someone who loves you totally with all your flaws and weaknesses disregarding everything else apart from you.That would be perfect but also close to non-existent.Don’t get me wrong,i am not anti-love.I am very happy when i see people in love but we seem to always forget that nothing in this world is permanent.

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Love is the cheapest thing you can give.It really doesn’t cost much.A cupful of attention and dedication is enough.The rest will catch up with you on the way.You just give it a try and don’t put too much of it out in the open.The simplest of actions can show love.The words,’stay safe’ or ‘take care’ in itself show lots of affection.

Give love to everyone irregardless of whatever they may have against you.As most people say,haters are just confused admirers.Love them all and keep on loving❤.

Love is patient,love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Stay safe.Stay blessed❤.

Love is overrated

I wanna say this in advance,I am not heartbroken😁.

We can agree to disagree that love is seriously overrated.The movies ,advertisements,expectations and the raised bar makes it all harder for this generation to find solace in love.It can no longer be a safe spot where you can hide your emotions and just be showered with lots and lots of love.

Relationship goals

This stuff destroys many healthy relationships.Yow,Kim and Kanye are trying that,let’s do it too.The fact that you are trying to model your relationship on another person’s is frivolous.You have to try doing stuff your own way and for once stop copying others.The earlier you do that,the less pillow tears and lonely thoughts you shall experience.

Expectations

This has caused many problems as people tend to be more optimistic when it comes to relationships.People never seem to learn.You should always prepare for the worst but expect the best because at some point you must be disappointed and start reviewing the terms of agreement.Always gear up for disappointments as over-expectation is a disease.

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Raised bar of love

We all thought love did not care about religion,race or physical condition.That fact remains to be true.Love nowadays depends on your financial situation.I don’t want to start a beef with y’all females but it is what it is and with the males always wanting you to prove your love.We live in confused times but this confuses us more.

In simple terms,love is overrated.You just gotta find someone who does not mess with your mental peace and settle.Cheers🍻❤

How much do you love me

This question itself can cause shivers down the spine.It is without question,one of the most difficult questions to answer honestly.In Bollywood,love is everything and everything is love but in reality love is just a feeling that can even fade away in a day just like anger.

The debate on love can go on without conclusion because everybody has his own opinions.The older generation feels like love does not exist anymore and maybe it is all just lust.They reminisce when they used to write love letters and send them to their loved ones back then and waiting for her at the river just to get a glimpse of her clueless of whether she has received the letter or not.That came to a halt with developments in technology.

We can all agree that social media is making it harder for people to stay together with all the relationship goals and stuff.Things were just easier back then when everyone focused on their own personal lives without feeling the need to be in a competition with anybody’s whatsapp status or instagram stories.Now,people try to attain a soap opera kinda love where you can fight over a girl for years and decide to stay single for the rest of your life if you lose her😁.This forces people to fake love.

In the words of Jamie Lannister(a Game of Thrones character) ‘things we do for love’ he says as he pushes a young boy(Bran) out of a window off a storey building.Those who can relate to that story know that what he did showed no love at all except for the fact that he was trying to save himself the shame and all that came with it but I believe that he did that for love.He did it to protect his own and that is what love is all about and anyone who asks you how much you love him or her has got some trust issues that needs to be sorted out first because it is not healthy for a relationship.How someone treats you will easily show the amount of love he or she has got for you.

In life when it comes to love,you just have to choose someone who is gonna give you mental peace but that is never easy.The heart wants what the heart wants.When you follow your heart blindly you are either gonna have a lover for life or a lesson for life.Take things slow and never forget why you began in the first place.The realest love is your old folk’s love.Their love is regardless of your health,financial or physical situation.Choose wisely and when you decide to follow your heart take your brain with you.

P.S. Not heartbroken😁.

Our pre-digital childhood

Most of us would be lying if we said that we did not enjoy our childhood.That is one of the best periods in one’s life.The minimun responsibilities and abundant love makes it all interesting and remembering worthy.Our African parents especially the mothers,made it all better with the boundless love shown through different ways,obviously serious caning included😅.

Growing up,everything seemed easy.The routine was very easy to remember and required no timetable or reminders.You would wake up,eat and go out to play without even washing your face.The program was to play till lunch,then come back home and then go back out again till evening.Back then we had no google accounts,facebook accounts nor whatsapp.Things were just so simple until adulthood came in.

As we were growing up,we played different kind of games and they were all really fun.The boys would go for swimming in the local ponds or dam,play circle games,hide and seek and play football too.We never seemed to get tired back then.The girls would play hide and seek,jump rope and some went swimming.At the end of the day,we all knew we were gonna face the rod when we went home.

So there is this story of a friend of mine who almost left us while we were still young.On that almost fateful day,my friend(Oboste) went swimming with a couple of non-professionals and almost lost his life for that.The guy drowned and none of his colleagues could save him.Luckily,a bystander jumped in,swam like Aqua man and saved his life.That incident still did not deter us from going back there to swim.We would still go there day in day out.

The greatest amount of fun came when we went back home in the evening.Our parents were firm believers of the saying,’spare the rod,spoil the child’.Our dear mothers would stretch our skin to see whether we spent the day swimming and they always knew unless you had applied vaseline to conceal it.The punishment that would follow if you were found guilty was just so ‘sweet’😅.The caning is just so nostalgic.

I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the subway… let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.

C. JoyBell C.Tag

Social impacts of the coronavirus

For the first time in quite some time majority of humans have been forced to stay indoors and to distance socially because someone somewhere decided to eat a bat😒.That not being the reason for writing this blog,the virus has had massive impact on the life of every single person.This pandemic has had effects on the lives of teachers,students,lawyers, doctors and all proffesionals including thieves as their main source of income has been cut abruptly.

The covid-19 pandemic has been a show stopper and not because of its looks or big heartenedness but because of the terror that accompanies it.Already claiming over 300,000 lives and yet unsatisfied.Although it has not made a name for itself like the Bubonic plague that claimed over 75 Million lives,the covid 19 has terrorized the hearts of most of the people.The rest have been forced to stay indoors by their respective governments.

Most people have found it really hard to survive indoors because lets face it,it is not easy.Seeing the same face over and over again for a whole day is boring enough,what about a whole week or a month.It is a sacrifice we have to make for survival because otherwise we would be competing with dinnosaurs for the prize of ‘the most extinct animals’.The remedy to most plagues has been quarantine and it seems to have already worked in China.

Covid-19 has run over everything that came in its way.For those who thrive on social gatherings,this is probably the worst time ever as they got no masses to move except maybe for their families.This virus is giving people opportunity for self evaluation as social distancing is a very effective preventive measure against it.So take this time to meditate and reflect on yourself.

The virus has stopped everything excluding some essential services like water.Few workers are allowed to report for duty to provide these services.Education in schools has been brought to a halt as an immediate response to this pandemic.However,this has provided some room for innovation and some institutes are continuing with their studies online.This has not received great response because the first assumption that,every student has access to a smartphone or a laptop,is not generally agreed upon.

The government also has to play its role in providing for their citizens as most of them are not working.Provide the people with food and they will stay indoors.

Take care.Stay safe.Survive.

Societal Expectations

These two words combined have caused and can still cause both destruction and motivation depending on your mindset.The society forms an integral part of everyone’s life.There is a lot of interdependence between us and the society.Generally,we all know that we form the society but we forget that the society forms us too.A great deal of our manners and core values are regulated by the society.

Society is the breeding ground and foundational layer for all kinds of individuals.A society that encourages each other and works together has different impacts on individuals compared to a society where every individual has only self interests.The former will build each other, work towards a common goal and everyone grows together.The latter creates a society without unity and interdependence.This type of society breeds criminals and thieves as the blessed ones do not care about the rest.

The society expects a lot from every individual.However, nowadays the society has become a bully.Make a simple mistake and you become a laughing stock.Life nowadays requires people who are emotionless where only the strongest survive.One common thing in any society is that people will always talk about you,whether you are doing good or bad.So,if you rely on people’s approval then you are in a hell of a lot of trouble.People have been forced to call themselves introverts because they simply cannot find a way to co-exist with these kind of people.

People have become judges of other people’s lives.A girl not yet married when 26 years must have a problem,they say.A man 40 years not yet married must have kids out of wedlock,so they say.He does not seek other people’s approval,he is arrogant,so they say.He has been going to the office for ten years but he still doesn’t have a car,so they say.People will always find something to say but you choose what to digest and what to excrete.The earlier you decide to seek your own approval,the better.Self confidence is always the key.

Live your life and do not try to please everyone because that is unachievable.In life you should always be competing with yourself and not with others.

If you spent your life concentrating on what everyone else thought of you, would you forget who you really were? What if the face you showed the world turned out to be a mask… with nothing beneath it?

Jodi Picoult, Nineteen Minutes

Blessed.Stay safe.

A helping hand

We live in seriously uncertain times where everyone is unsure of what to do or say.The sufferrers of this unfortunate circumstances are the have nots in our society.It has gone from very difficult to being almost impossible for the less fortunate in our society to come out and ask for help(beg is not necessarily the best term to use).

The underprivileged ones do not want to show themselves because of the accompannying chain of events.They have to be mentally and physically prepared for anything in this unpredictable world.They might get an insult as a response to their ask for help and that is never an easy pill to swallow.Others might even respond physically to them as they do not want to be seen with the less privileged in the society.Another group will want to show off with the help you are receiving from them and they maybe be forced to take a selfie.This among many other reasons cause the have nots in our society to succumb to their condition.

It is everyone’s responsibility to help a person in need even if it is just verbally.Who knows,your words may just motivate them to work harder to sustain a living.Your kind words might just turn a frown into a smile and what better feeling than that can you ever get.A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle,so use the blessings you have to help others in more desperate situations than yours.If only everyone takes care of their destitute relatives,neighbours and friends then our lives will be worth living.

A life spent only in satisfying self goals and doing nothing to help others is no life at all.In the words of the great Muhammad Ali ‘service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth’.The satisfaction you get when you help somebody is unmatchable.Help out if you can and if you can’t then do not worsen their situation.

There are various people who need our help.There will be no street kids if we decide to give them a home.There will be no orphans if we decide to take them in as our own.Donate money,food and clothings,join charity organizations,give some of your valuable time and spread love.The little you waste may mean everything to another person,so use everything sparingly and always try to be an inspiration to others.

The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.
― Barack Obama

Help while you can.Visit the nearest orphanages and look after your relatives,friends and neighbours.

Blessed.Stay safe.

HUSTLING

This term has been defined by many people in many different ways.Some calling it the struggle to earn a living.Some define it as doing anything to earn money while others define it as striving headstrong towards a goal.Some other definitions are negative but it is just what you make of it and nothing more.

Hustlers are people who don’t wait for opportunities to come to their doorsteps.On the contrary they go out and find or create the opportunities for others and themselves.They are relentless in what they are doing till they achieve their objectives.

Hustlers are driven by different reasons but they all have a common goal of surviving in this harsh world.They have the attitude of ‘make money or die trying’ which is better than just waiting to make money magically.A famous quote serves up the issue of just dreaming of making money while doing nothing about it.The quote goes ‘Don’t stay in bed unless you can make money in bed.’

Hustlers survive mostly because they know why they are doing what they are doing.They have a plan for how they want their life to be and to achieve that they have to be seriously focused.Hustlers know that everything cannot be done alone and so they grow together with others.Investing in other people’s ideas and providing quality to everything they do to satisfy the consumers.Without focus and determination,one can easily go offtrack and lose their aim.

Nothing comes easy and there is no difference when it comes to hustling.Payday cannot be everyday, so you must be ready to grind.It is the amount of work that you put in your hustle which determines whether it becomes a success or a failed project.But it is better to have a failed project than no attempted project at all.

Below is a collection of my favourite hustle quotes;

  • “Great things may come to those who wait, but only the things left behind by those who hustle”-Abraham Lincoln
  • “What you lack in talent can be made up in desire,hustle and giving 110% all the time”-Don Zimmer
  • “Hustle beats talent when talent doesn’t hustle”-Ross Simmonds
  • “The dream is free,the hustle is sold separately.”
  • “Live daring,boldly,fearlessly.Taste the relish to be found in competition – in having put forth the best within you”-Henry J. Kaiser

Finally, an idea remains an idea till you invest in it.Be proud of your ideas and strive to make them a success.Again,nothing comes easy.For all the hustlers out there, do not give up.